Restoring My Faith in Humanity

You guys, truth be told, I’ve had a rough week. If it wasn’t one thing, it most certainly was the next. From small setbacks, to big, I’ve been feeling down and frustrated and ready to throw in the towel. I’ve just been dealing with people, that aren’t nice people, and it made me morph into a version of myself that I wasn’t proud to be. The apartment community we just moved away from has been awful to deal with, and really just trying to throw us under the boat in ways that I’m just really not use to. Although we paid every single month on time, they failed to mention (at any point) that we need to offer a 30-day written notice of intent to vacate, and when we didn’t – they hit us with a $650 fee. Ouch. They’ve been down right villains about it, and it’s pretty evident that they’re pretty accustomed to being scummy, and taking advantage of people just for the sake of it (oh, and making a buck). What bothered me about it more than anything, is their predatory procedures were inconvenient for us, but for most of the people living in that apartment community, being hit with an unanticipated $650 fee would be devastating. Like pretty close to their month’s salary (it was NOT a fancy place…) Now that is so wrong, so so wrong in my book. Needless to say, after a week full of disappointments with our renovations (kitchen’s behind 4-weeks, laundry room didn’t pass inspection) – their awful demeanor just had me questioning – ya know – like where’s the love people.

But little things this week, have helped to restore my faith. Little things like my Dad calling, just to tell me how mad he was that the apartment community would do that. Or the Father in our neighborhood I passed on my walk home from work this week, tenderly teaching his little one to ride a bike. And the adolescent girl I saw, lifting up her hand to help an elderly woman get off the bus and step over a puddle on the street.

There was one website I stumbled upon this week, that was so incredibly beautiful, I had to share. Humans of New York. It’s humanity at it’s core and it’s moving in ways that are difficult to articulate. Here’s a small sample of it’s beauty. I hope you enjoy these excerpts as much as I did.

PRIDE

Humans of New York

“At the end of my senior year, I took some advanced level entry exams from Cambridge University. They are very difficult and very important. When the exam scores came in, my friend called me and told me that the principal was looking for me. My father was sitting next to me. He saw my face and asked me what was wrong. ‘I think I did very poorly,’ I told him. ‘Because the principal is looking for me.’ He told me that he would come to her office with me to support me. When we got there, there was a huge line of students waiting to get their scores, but the principal called me in. She told me I was one of three students in the school to get all A’s. My father was so nervous when I came out, and when I told him, he hugged me so hard that I could tell he was trying not to cry. He was so happy, he took all the money out of his wallet, handed it to the security guard, and told him to pass it out to everyone in line. It was the happiest moment of my life.”

WORK ETHIC

Humans of New York

“I had a child when I was sixteen. I got kicked out of high school because of all the absences. My family and community pretty much wrote me off. But right away I got a job at a sporting goods store. Soon I was able to get a job as a receptionist at a tax company, and they gave me enough responsibilities that I learned how to do taxes. Eventually I learned enough to become an associate. Then I got offered a job at a smaller company, and even though it was a pay cut, they offered me responsibility over all the books— accounts payable, accounts receivable, everything. It was less money but I wanted that experience so I took the risk. And I’m so glad I did, because six months later, the controller of that company left and I was given that position. They told me they couldn’t officially call me the controller because I didn’t have a college degree. So I finished my degree 5 months ago— just to make it official! So after having a child at sixteen, I made it all the way to controller of a company, without even having a college degree. Can you believe that? Honestly, I’ve been waiting to tell that story so long that I told it to a customer service representative on the phone last week. She was nice about it and pretended to care.”

CELEBRATING YOUR BEST ATTRIBUTES

Humans of New York

“He won the Best Legs Competition on our cruise ship.”

BELIEVING IN OTHERS

Humans of New York

“I went to work with a fever one day, and I was trying to pull out a screw when the crowbar dislodged and hit me across the face. Two days later, I started to see a pink spray behind my right eye. They tried many surgeries, but over two months, my vision slowly faded to nothing until I was completely blind in the eye. My balance was ruined. I felt dizzy. I could barely walk. I spent $16,000 on surgeries, and then the hospital sued me for $40,000, even though they failed to save my eye. I was so sad and angry at myself, that I did nothing for a year and a half. I lost my house, my car, everything. Then one day, my friend said to me that he had an important job for me to do. And it was a very small job, but he gave me $1,000. He knew I wouldn’t take charity, so this was his way of giving me charity— overpaying me for a job. That was the way he was— Atilla Tetik is his name, from Long Island. And even though the $1,000 was a big help, seeing that I could finish a job made me feel powerful. And I immediately started working again.”

LOVE

Humans of New York

“When I told my mom that I was going to rehab, she was about to catch a flight to her 40th High School Reunion. I told her: ‘I guess you won’t be bragging about me to your friends.’ She said: ‘Actually, I’ve never been prouder of you.’”

SACRIFICE

Humans of New York

“I tell them: ‘Don’t think about money. Let Grandpa think about money. Just think about your education.’”

SLOWING DOWN

People_In_Central_Park

“One time I was taking him and a friend to the park, and his friend had a slight walking problem. I didn’t even notice it, so I was walking pretty fast. He ran up to me, tapped me on the shoulder, and whispered: ‘Dad, will you please slow down?’ I’ll never forget that.”

SEEING THE WORLD AROUND US

Humans of New York

“We’re the Eco Adventure Club! Everyday we go on an adventure to learn about plants and animals in the city. Today is our eleventh adventure. We’ve been to Prospect Park, the Botanical Gardens, and today we’re learning to use maps on the High Line. We’re even growing our own garden. Everybody say Raaassstttaaaffaaarriii!”

I seriously LOVE this website. It’s my new facebook/twitter obsession. If you found these stories as heartwarming as I did, you can follow along with Humans of New York on twitter, facebook, or their blog! Happy Friday everyone – here’s to next week being better than the last! Let’s all go out and do one random act of kindness today, just to make this world a bit better of a place.

10 thoughts on “Restoring My Faith in Humanity

  1. I love Humans of New York. I’m glued to it. I’ve had a pretty craptastic week myself, but trying to remain positive. Did you sign a lease with your apartment complex? They cannot force you to pay a fee if it isn’t something that you signed off on. I would look into legal action, to pursue it. That’s not right that they are trying to take advantage of you and your husband.

    1. Isn’t it the best? Helps me to put things in perspective! Yeah, we were in the wrong since we did sign a contract. They just never told us what we were signing! I hope your week gets better, Kerri! The good news – it’s FRIDAY! 😀

  2. Hi Mary, so sorry to hear about your “bad week”; I guess we all have them once in a while. Restoring an older home takes alot of skill and patience which you two certainly have. Just don”t let thebad ones get you down there are many more “good ones” ahead. My mother always told me when I was real down about something that I did not have anything to complain about because I had my “good health” and that was the utmost inportant thing to have and I now know that she was so so right!!! Take care Sandee.

    1. Sandee – thank you so much for those kind words!! I can’t agree with your mother more! I told Jay this week at the end of the day, as long as we have our health and each other, we’re doing pretty good.

  3. So sorry that’s happened to you. And so happy youve found a way to shine some light in the midst of it. Im a huge HONY fan and follow them on instagram. I have their first book as well which is great for at the end of a hard day!

  4. R.e. the horrible landlords – I wonder if you could help out your fellow renters, maybe print out a note about the required notice/fee and slip it under apartment doors, so that the landlords won’t get another $650 out of anyone else currently in the place?

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